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In every class you will find children displaying this phenomenon.

There will be bright children in the class, who work hard but struggle to read.

Initially everything can seem OK. But, while other children’s reading progresses steadily, these children will hit a plateau at around 6. As the text they are expected to read gets more complicated, they will get more and more confused, often guessing wildly.

And then their confidence collapses under the pressure. They can feel everyone’s concern and don’t know what to do to fix the problem.

Sometimes this leads to a diagnosis of dyslexia, which is quite wrong.

Dyslexia is a broad term that covers any fundamental problem with reading despite normal intelligence.

But trying to read the wrong way is not dyslexia. And that is what is happening.

Here is what’s really happening.

A very visual child will find the alphabet easy to memorise. Then the first words they are show they will memorise as well. Everyone praises their progress and as far as they know, they are reading. The early reader books feed into this by using a very limited vocabulary that repeats a lot.

So all seems well.

But this technique gets more and more difficult as the text gets more complex. Children with a good natural ear for the phonic structure in words will now switch to decoding the words instead.

Others cannot naturally distinguish the sounds within the words (phonemes) and so cannot relate them to the letter patterns that represent them in text (graphemes). At least not without quite a bit of careful instruction.

And these children are heading for failure

You will see them guessing wildly, just using the context and the first letter of the word.

They are frustrated and puzzled by their situation and don’t know the way out of it. They can sense the frustration of their teacher and parents, but have actually been doing their best.

Of the one in five children who reach the age of 11 unable to read properly, around 80% are in this group. It virtually destroys their chances of a good academic career and severely limits their working options.

And that is a tragedy, because we routinely see exactly these children learn to read in a matter of weeks. They have no underlying reason not to be able to read. They are just going about it the wrong way.

I hate children being labelled dyslexic because it reduces the sense of urgency to actually finding the solution. Acceptance creeps in, consigning the child to a much harder track through life.

You’ve probably heard it this a hundred times and I bet everyone agree that bringing up children is one of the most hard job there is and no one in this world is totally armed on how to be a good parent. It seems like there is never enough time to prepare you to raise children. As certain as it is, your life do change from the day your child is born. Some of you may have read parenting skills book but trust me on this, parenting is not as easy as memorizing the words in a book. You learn as you go.

On the brighter side, I am sure that all would also agree that parenting is also one of the most rewarding jobs. This article will give you insights on parenting skills and how to be more prepared should nasty circumstances happen in the future.

Well, most experts agree that parents to be consistent, set limitations and give positive reinforcements to the child. They also advice us to give the child an environment that breeds self improvement, self worth and self esteem. Here comes the problem. Practicing what they teach us.

With all in the daily life, it is easy to get distracted with everyday stress and unfortunately some parents, if not all at times, tend to bring those frustrations and stresses out in the way they interact and communicate with their children. This is unacceptable because as a parent we need to control our own emotions and not to let our emotions affect the children.

Well, many of us pick up parenting skills from the values that our parents thought and of course through our own observations and perceptions that we live by. We will then pass on these parenting skills to our children as they will adopt our methods. Bear in mind that this can have a negative effect on the child development if the parent was rise in a less ideal environment.

Someone who had a bad childhood can be trap in a vicious cycle if they do not recognize the faults and mistakes in it and learn some skills to correct and overcome the situation. It is best if parents were to identify patterns of abuse and neglect and take necessary measures to stop it from happening.

Punishment and disciple are points worth highlighting about. Always have to remember that punish a child may result in obvious and immediate change in behaviour but the child maybe doing it out of fear, anger and withdrawal. In this case, punishment is more about controlling a child and let them live in fear rather than educating them what’s right and what’s wrong. Whereas for discipline it is more of telling a child that all actions they make or do have consequences and they are responsible for their own action as well. It is up to them to make the right choices.

Kids are born curious, and with this curiosity in them, it helps them to learn more things and they should never be told not to be curious. One thing to emphasize is that no parents should let their children to be stress with ridiculous expectation of them. Having the kid to go through harsh parenting can result in severe damage the kid growth.

Believe me, once you start to apply this. These are the best parenting skills that I can offer you. It is not as scary as it seems but being a good parent is definitely a challenging task. Keep your mind open and you would surprise with the results. Being a parent is about following your gut feeling and your heart. Everything else will come into place.