Child Behavior Problems: My Son Has Night Terrors
Wednesday, January 23rd, 2008Q. “My 7-year old son wakes up periodically in the middle of the night. We find him sitting bolt upright, staring straight ahead, and screaming at the top of his lungs. He sounds like he’s being viciously attacked. This goes on for a while, during which we try to console him. He goes back to sleep without knowing we were even there. If we decide to awaken him, he appears confused, and doesn’t remember his dreams”.
A. Your little boy doesn’t remember his dream because he wasn’t dreaming. It sounds as if he’s experiencing night terrors.
When we first fall asleep, we enter stage one sleep. We then progress through stages two and three until, after about an hour and a half, we enter our the deepest sleep, stage four. Scientists can recognize these stages by our brain-wave (EEG) patterns.
What is surprising is that we don’t dream during the four stages. If someone awakens during them, the most they can say is that they were “thinking”.
After stage four we then suddenly shift into a completely different mode of sleep called “rapid eye movement” (REM) sleep. This is when all the dreaming occurs. If you watch someone in this stage, you will see their eyes darting from side to side. We dream for about 45 minutes, and then we go back into non-REM sleep for another hour or so. This pattern continues through the night, with the non-REM stages becoming increasingly lighter. Hence the saying “an hour before midnight is worth two after”.
It is when we dream that we can have nightmares. These are usually Hollywood style productions in full color that seem very real at the time.
Night terrors, on the other hand, occur in stage four sleep. This is also the stage in which sleepwalking and talking occur. The reason they occur is unknown, and most children grow out of them. They may be worse at times of stress.
Although very alarming, and most distressing to the rest of the family, night terrors cause no harm to the child himself. Indeed, if you can possibly bear it, the best tactic is to not wake him. As you have said, after a while, he just goes back to sleep by himself. The same also applies to sleepwalking, when the goal is simply to make sure the child is safe in his wanderings, and. that he cannot fall down the stairs or out of a window.
Night terrors usually occur in children from 3 to 6 years of age, but sometimes go a little later. They are not an indication of any problem. You would actually be better to get your own rest during these occurrences, difficult as it sounds.